The Parable of the River

Thanks to the people at Koorong for tracking down this story I was hunting. It's called "The Parable of the River" and is from the book "In the Grip of Grace" by Max Lucado. Someone has transcribed it online here, I recommend having a read. It's a great allegory of the different ways we as as humans respond to our sin.

Unsoliticed Advice #1

I think I'll start regularly posting what I see as useful advice. At the very least, it will be interesting to look back and see if my opinions change. But hopefully you might find these useful too. Here's the first:

How to give compliments to people who won't take them.

Have to ever tried to be nice to someone and they just won't take your compliment? Perhaps they are too shy, too humble, or just too proud! Here are some tips to compliment these people in a way they will respond to.

Avoid compliments that use a comparison, even value judgments. For instance:

• "That piano playing was really good"
• "You're the most beautiful person I know!"

People who find it hard to take compliments will usually deny these claims. This may because they are under-rating themselves, or because they think you are over-rating them! They may actually be justified in denying your claims - if for instance they feel that they didn't play the piano very well compared to their usual skill level, or they know someone more beautiful than them that you aren't aware of! So either their self-esteem is low, or your experience of piano playing or personal beauty isn't as wide as theirs
Either way, you can still give an effective compliment by changing the compliment around to reflect the effect that they have had on you. This is good because:

1. It emphasizes the relationship between the two of you, rather than just the performance/beauty of the other person. Whether you are romantically involved or not, focusing on the relationship you have with someone is always more important than the things they or you do or look like.
2. But more importantly, it is much easier for the person to accept the compliment because there is less comparison involved. For instance:
   - "I really enjoyed your piano playing"
   - "I just love looking at you"

The other person can then feel warm and encouraged (the purpose of a compliment) because of the effect that they have on you (enjoyment, pleasure etc.). They don't have to worry about whether they thought they were good enough. There is no way they can deny your compliment without sounding silly (e.g. - "You didn't enjoy my playing!").

So your compliments should have the desired effects!

Note: If, in response to "I really enjoyed your piano playing", they say "Well you must have simple tastes because I played very badly", then we can assume their ego is far too developed to warrant any further compliments!

Man Nesting

Our baby is due in 3 weeks, 5 days. And I think I've been nesting.

I know it's supposed to be a pregnant woman thing but why can't a man want his house all ordered and fixed up before a baby comes along and pulls things in the complete opposite direction? I think I'll call it Man-Nesting. This is woman nesting:

This is Man-Nesting:

In the last two weeks I've organised my clothes, gone through and thrown out old study notes (*sigh*, I used to be so smart before I started working), installed a shelf, put 2 trailer loads of mulch in the garden, transplated a 10-foot tree and this weekend I'm installing a ducted vacuum system!

I hope this baby appreciates it :)

My sense of humour

I've just discovered this webcomic, called xkcd. I think it's very very close to any kind of comic I would try and write, given my sense of humour. So rather than write my own, I'll just read this one a lot. You might like it too.

Supernatural history

Recently I responded to an an online letter to The West newspaper by Kathleen Smith that said:

"How can the Bible be historical if it is fiction? The word, "historical", implies factualness and the supernatural aspects of the bible can hardly be described as historical"

Here's my response:

The only way we know anything about history is from the people who were there and recorded it. We can only assess the accuracy or credibility of them as witnesses.

You might say "I think it is extremely unlikely that someone could be raised from the dead, therefore it probably didn't happen."

But, I might tell you that I won the lottery 10 years ago. You could say, "It's extremely unlikely for someone to win the lottery (1 chance in billions?) therefore it probably didn't happen". Well we know that a better idea would be to investigate my claim by talking to people who were in my life 10 years ago, and they may just be able to convince you that it did happen.

So just because something is "supernatural", that doesn't mean can't be historical.

Fighting the good fire

Source: Australian Geographic

I've been thinking - how can we keep God's mission central to our lives, when it seems that most of our lives are taken up by other things? Telling people about him seems to be a thing that gets done sporadically, when the opportunities pop up (sometimes not even then). So how can evangelism remain our prime focus?

Well, I thought of a helpful analogy recently. Consider the life of a volunteer country fireman. They have other things to do, during the time when there are no fires to put out. They must look after their farms and take care of the necessities of daily life. However, their primary responsibility is as a fireman. Once that fire-bell rings, they must drop everything and run to put out the fire. Their jobs come sporadically. But even though they aren't continually involved in fighting fires, it is still their primary concern.

Even though they are voluntary, they still must undergo training to be effective. We must do the same. Once a town gets large enough, they will be able to support full-time firemen. This is really the only difference between full-time gospel workers and the rest of us. We must do our work voluntarily because there are not the resources available to support us full-time. However, our duties remain the same. We may not be able to devote our entire working day to fighting fires, but we can still think of this as our primary mission. We may not be able to devote that much of our time to training ourselves as effective firefighters, however we still must undergo regular training to be effective. Imagine if the volunteer firefighters became fat and lazy and forgot how to connect their hoses!

So keeping this analogy in mind, we can still go about our everyday lives, doing the things that are necessary to keep ourselves alive, and yet still have the sharing of God’s gospel as our primary mission.

So then if we are working, the money we have after taking care of our own needs can be used to support full-time firefighters throughout the world. And if you are a student then studying is just a means to making this money more effectively.

But all the time, we are ready for any fires that break out.

Help me find: The River

Dear reader,

I was wondering if you could help me locate a story. I heard this many years ago and cannot remember the title or author. I was hoping someone out there may have heard of it and know more about it.

It's called something like "The River" and is an allegory about sin, our response and God's response. In summary, 4 brothers are warned against going near a fast-flowing river by their Father. When they inevitably disobey him, they are caught up and swept downstream to a faraway land very different from their Father’s land.

One of the brother’s decides to move in with the natives of this land and indulge in their evil practices. The other brother sets up camp near the first brother to catalogue his evil ways for future judgement. Another brother tries to build a path back up the river using stones from the river bank, with little success. The last brother trusts that their Father will come to bring them back to his land.

Eventually their Father does arrive and meets with the trusting son. The Father tells him to go and collect his other brothers so that he can carry them all upstream. The trusting son tries to convince the first brother, but he is now happy living in this new land. The second son is pleased to hear that the Father has returned but can’t leave just yet as he hasn’t finished writing down all the first brother’s sins. The third brother tells the trusting son that his Father wouldn’t want him to give up trying and he will stay and keep building his path. After the trusting brother confronts him with the futility of his efforts, he aggressively rebukes the trusting brother for his negativity.

So finally the Father travels back up the stream, carrying the trusting son on his back, carrying him back to safety and back to his family.

Any ideas where I might find a copy of this story? For once Google is no help at all!